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I hit 90 days yesterday and wanted to share what's different, because when I was on Day 1, posts like this kept me going. **What changed:** - Lost 14 pounds without trying (just cutting the alcohol calories) - Sleep went from 5-6 hours of tossing to 7-8 hours of actual rest - My ResetPoint Score went from 23 to 78 - Saved $1,200 (the dashboard tracks this automatically) - My anxiety dropped significantly — I didn't realize how much of it was alcohol-induced - I actually remember my weekends now **What didn't change:** - I still get cravings, especially at social events - Some friendships faded (turns out they were drinking buddies, not friends) - I still have bad days — sobriety isn't a cure-all **What surprised me:** - How much better food tastes - How much more patient I am with my kids - That I actually enjoy mornings now Keep going. It gets better. Not perfect — better.

I was doing great for 45 days, then a family event knocked me off track. I'm not going to beat myself up about it. The data in my ResetPoint dashboard shows that even with the slip, I'm drinking 60% less than I was 3 months ago. Progress isn't linear. I'm resetting my streak but keeping my perspective. If you've slipped too — you're not starting over. You're starting from experience.

Had a massive craving hit at a dinner party last night. Everyone was drinking wine and I could feel the pull getting stronger. Excused myself to the bathroom and did the 5-4-3-2-1 grounding exercise from the ResetPoint toolkit: - 5 things I could see (tile pattern, soap dispenser, my reflection, towel rack, light fixture) - 4 things I could touch (cold water, smooth counter, soft towel, phone case) - 3 things I could hear (music from the party, water running, my breathing) - 2 things I could smell (hand soap, candle from the hallway) - 1 thing I could taste (the mint from my gum) By the time I finished, the craving had dropped from a 9 to about a 4. Went back out, grabbed a sparkling water, and actually enjoyed the rest of the evening. These tools work. You just have to use them before you pick up the drink, not after.

Hi everyone. I'm not trying to quit entirely — I just want to get my drinking under control. I've been averaging about 20 drinks a week and I know that's too much. My doctor flagged it at my last checkup. I found ResetPoint and the "no labels, no shame" approach really resonated with me. I'm setting a goal of 7 drinks per week max. Starting the 60-day program today. Any advice for someone just starting out?

I'm on Day 22 and I'm realizing I have a LOT of free time now that I'm not spending 2-3 hours every evening drinking. The boredom is real. I took the Hobby Discovery quiz on ResetPoint and it suggested woodworking, which I never would have considered. Bought a basic set of tools last weekend and I'm hooked. There's something about working with your hands that scratches the same "zone out" itch that drinking used to. What replaced drinking for you? I'm curious what stuck and what didn't.

I can't believe I made it this far. The first week was brutal, but the trigger map really helped me see my patterns. I noticed that my biggest triggers were weekday evenings after work — just that routine of "unwinding" with a drink. Once I replaced that with a 20-minute walk and some journaling, the cravings got so much more manageable. The ResetPoint Score going up each week kept me motivated too. Sharing in case it helps someone else. You CAN do this.

Does anyone else deal with this? I'm on Day 35 and feeling good, which is actually the problem. My brain keeps saying: "See? You're fine. You were never that bad. You can probably drink normally now." I know this is a trap. My trigger map shows exactly how bad it was — 4-5 drinks every weeknight, 8+ on weekends. That's not "not that bad." But the further I get from it, the more my memory romanticizes it. How do you fight the revisionist history your brain creates?

One thing that helped me was finding drinks I actually enjoy that aren't alcohol. Here's my current rotation: - **Athletic Brewing Run Wild IPA** — tastes like a real IPA - **Seedlip Garden 108 + tonic** — great for social situations - **Kombucha** — the slight fizz scratches the beer itch - **Sparkling water with bitters** — feels sophisticated - **Ginger beer** (non-alcoholic) — spicy and satisfying Having something in your hand at social events makes a huge difference. What are your go-to NA drinks?

This might not sound like much to some people, but weekends were always my hardest time. Friday night was "reward night" and Saturday was "social night." I used the toolkit breathing exercises Friday evening when the craving hit hard, and by Saturday I actually felt proud instead of hungover. My ResetPoint Score jumped 8 points this week. Small wins matter.

I want to say something to every parent who's on this journey: your kids notice. They might not say it, but they notice. My 8-year-old said to me last week: "Dad, you're different now. You play with us more." That hit me harder than any craving ever could. I wasn't a "bad" parent when I was drinking. I showed up. I provided. But I was checked out by 7pm every night. Present physically, absent mentally. My kids got the leftover version of me after alcohol took the best parts. Now they get the real me. Tired sometimes, imperfect always, but present. Fully, completely present. If you're doing this for your kids — keep going. They see you. They're proud of you. Even if they can't articulate it yet.

My therapist taught me the HALT method — before reaching for a drink, ask yourself: Am I **H**ungry, **A**ngry, **L**onely, or **T**ired? 9 times out of 10, my cravings were actually one of these. Once I started addressing the real need (eating a snack, calling a friend, taking a nap), the craving passed. Combined with the ResetPoint trigger logging, I can now see the pattern clearly. Most of my "cravings" were actually just hunger or exhaustion.

Looking for advice on navigating social drinking situations at work. I don't want to explain my situation to everyone but also don't want to cave. My company does happy hours every Thursday and it feels like I'm the only one not drinking. I've tried saying "I'm driving" but people still push. Any strategies that have worked for you?

I've been reading "Atomic Habits" by James Clear alongside doing the ResetPoint program, and the overlap is fascinating. The key insight: you don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems. That's exactly what ResetPoint does — it gives you a system. The trigger mapping, the score, the daily check-ins. It's not willpower. It's architecture. Anyone else reading anything good related to behavior change? Would love recommendations.

My wife is supportive of my decision to cut back, but she still has wine with dinner most nights. I don't want to ask her to stop — that's her choice — but having it in the house makes things harder. Has anyone navigated this? How do you set boundaries without creating tension in your relationship?